How much do you know about the G-spot? This magical part of the female body seems to be as mysterious as the Loch Ness monster. Is it even real?!?

The G-spot is a term for an erogenous zone inside the vagina that supposedly can give womxn orgasms when stimulated. You probably know that for most womxn, the clitoris is the gateway to orgasm pleasure – but for others, the G-spot can provide that blissful sensation too!

So, is the G-spot a real thing? If it is, how do you find it (or direct your partner to it)? Read on, lovers – we’re about to unravel all of the mysteries here.

Hold up… does the G-spot actually exist?

Unfortunately, as is often the case with science, male bodies are much better understood than female ones. (Cue long-suffering sigh here.) In fact, the term G-spot was only coined in the 1980s, named after Ernst Grafenberg, a German gynecologist who had researched vaginal orgasms.

So, we’re just going to be straight with you: while scientists have worked out roughly where the G-spot is located, they’re not really sure… what it is. Some people think the G-spot is connected to the clit as it extends internally into the body. Others think it’s the female version of the prostate, a gland that can provide pleasure to men when stimulated.

Essentially, it’s not fully understood. For some womxn, the G-spot provides killer orgasms. For other womxn, it might not – which is okay! Each body is different, unique, and amazing, and we all respond differently to different sensations.

Image by Wyron A on Unsplash: A bit of self-love can help you find your G-spot.

How do you find your G-spot?

There’s only one way to find if vaginal climax is a thing for you – try it out for yourself! Wondering how to find your G-spot? It’s considered to be within the vagina, about 5–8cm above its opening. If you (or your partner) put one or two fingers inside, facing upwards (as if making a “come here” motion – emphasis on the “come”!), you should be in the right spot.

You might find it more comfortable to try out while laying down. As your or your partner’s fingers start to stimulate the inside of the vagina, an area of tissue, near the urethra, will begin to swell; the area of swelling is considered the G-spot. At first, this sensation might make you feel like you need to go to the bathroom – this is totally normal! While it’s always a good idea to use the bathroom before any sexual play, many womxn feel like they need to pee when being fingered.

For some babes, the feeling quickly goes away and becomes an amazing sexual sensation. If this is the case, they can sometimes achieve the big O just from vaginal stimulation, giving them an orgasm without pleasuring their clit. (It can result in squirting too, which occurs when muscles contract during orgasm.) For others, it just tends to feel uncomfortable. Both feelings are completely okay! You never know how you’ll respond to something until you try it.

Wondering how to reach vaginal climax? Here are a few tips

If you’re thinking about expanding your sexual horizons, good for you! Discovering what you love (and don’t love) in the bedroom is an amazing way to get to know yourself. Here are a few tips to get you started with G-spot hunting and vaginal climaxing.

1. Take your time

Trying out new things, sexually speaking, is always better if you relax and take your sweet time – no need to rush things! Often, it’s going to take time and practice to learn more about your body, what feels good, and just where your G-spot is.

If you’re not having any luck, no problem! Try again another time, as it often takes a while to hit that sweet spot. Or, if you’re with your partner, you might find that plenty of foreplay can help, getting you really turned on. If you have a male partner, you might find that you can orgasm from penetration alone, especially if you experiment with different positions.

2. Try out toys

How do you trigger the G-spot? For some babes, fingers just don’t do the trick – but toys do! If you enjoy the thrill of toys, you might want to try one designed for internal use, as this can help you reach your G-spot much more easily, especially if you’re flying solo.

You can also find sex toys specifically designed for G-spot pleasure, which can be fun to try out – just start off slow and always use with lube, as this can make the experience much more pleasurable.

Image by Eye for Ebony on Unsplash: An amazing orgasm is sure to put a smile on your dial the rest of the day.

3. Make sure you’re feeling relaxed

For many, orgasms are a mental thing as much as a physical thing. If you’re feeling stressed, tired, or thinking about work or that exam tomorrow, you’re likely going to find it hard to orgasm – vaginally or otherwise.

If you’re on a mission to find your G-spot, it’ll be easier if you relax. Do what feels good; you might want to take a relaxing bath first, light some candles, enjoy a glass of red. You can even pop on something sexy, even if no one will see it but you!

4. Don’t trust what you see in porn

One issue we’ve gotta flag: female orgasms are not accurately represented in most porn. It can be easy to get discouraged when you see babes in porn orgasming left, right, and center from vaginal stimulation – but the truth is, that sh*t just ain’t real.

Don’t compare yourself to anyone you see in porn. Remember – they’re actors putting on a performance. We’re all for ethical porn, as it can be a massive turn-on, but just don’t take it too seriously or let it dictate how your real-life lovin’ plays out!

So there you have it – everything you never knew you needed to know about the G-spot and vaginal orgasms. Sure, they can be a lot of fun, but if they just don’t happen for you, don't worry! There are plenty of other amazing ways to enjoy orgasms and sex, whether you’re alone or with a partner. So go on – go get busy. ;)

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