Feeling Stressed But Also Kinda Kinky? RBL's Guide To Sensual Massage
So you’ve come home from a seriously stressful day at work and just need to unwind… but you also wouldn’t be averse to a little sexy fun. We’ve got the ideal solution: sensual massage! Call up your FWB or rope in your partner, because things are about to get kinky (not your muscles, though – those kinks are gonna get worked alllll the way out).
Sensual massage is a relaxing, erotic, and fun way to not only unwind after a big day, but also to take your sex life to a whole new level. If you’re ready to have the most ahh-mazing massage of your life, here’s our guide to sensual massage to get you started.
What is sensual massage?
Okay, so what exactly is sensual massage? This is nothing like a massage you’d get from a trained masseuse at a spa – a sensual massage is usually done nude, by an intimate partner. Traditional massage is usually focused on easing sore muscles, or remedial massage to help with knots, but sensual massage has a sexual component.
This type of massage is all about the build-up. You might start with a back or neck massage, but the massage will then continue to more erogenous zones, often ending in an orgasm. You can think of it as a type of foreplay, but we think sensual massage is seriously a category of its own!
What are the benefits of sensual massage?
One awesome advantage of sensual massage is that it’s a fun and sexy way to connect with your partner if you’re in a relationship. We all spend so much time each day at work, on our phones, or just busy with life admin, that it’s important to focus on your partner and spend quality time together.
Of course, massage can also help you feel more relaxed, ease sore muscles, and help you sleep better. Oh, and if the massage just so happens to end in an orgasm, even better!
Okay, I’m keen – how do I give an erotic massage?
Wondering how to give an erotic massage? Here’s some good news – you really can’t get it wrong! Sensual massage can work however you want it to, so there’s no official right or wrong way to go about it. However, here are some sexy ideas to get the wheels turning.
Set the mood
To get the most out of your massage, it’s all about the atmosphere! Take a few minutes to turn your bedroom into an erotic paradise – dim the lights; light a few candles or burn incense.
If you’re using massage oil (which you should!), you might want to put on some bed linens that aren’t your fave, in case a bit of oil gets onto the sheets. You might also want to pop on something sexy, or glam it up with your fave makeup brands.
Start with a back massage
Since sensual massage is all about the build-up, it’s nice to start with a traditional massage before things get naughty. Have your partner lie down and start with a back and neck massage – keeping in mind that you might want to take turns massaging one another, or you might focus the massage on one of you (just be sure the other returns the favor next time!).
Using massage oil, you can gently (or firmly) run your hands and palms over their back, neck, and shoulders, removing tension and helping them totally relax and unwind.
Time to tease, baby!
Once you think the time is right, you can start teasing, adding in some touches that are a bit out of bounds during a traditional massage. Perhaps start by rubbing your hands over their butt, massaging their inner thighs, or caressing their nipples.
After a bit of teasing, you can go back to the normal massage techniques for a while, alternating between the two. The excitement and suspense are sure to drive them wild!
When you’re both super turned on, you can take the massage all the way home – whether you’re into oral, more touching, or penetrative sex, this is one massage that you’re definitely allowed to end with a bang!
Ready to unwind? Here are a few bonus sensual massage tips to rev your engine
Don’t be shy
Sensual massage (and sex) is all about communication! Ask your partner what feels good as you’re touching them, and check if there are any areas where they don’t want to be touched. The experience will 100% be better for you both if you communicate during the massage, or do a quick debrief after.
Don’t worry if your massage skills are lacking
Here’s the thing about sensual massage: it’s not really about the massage. Even if you don’t know proper massage techniques or muscle groups, it doesn’t really matter. Sensual massage is more about slowing down, enjoying someone else’s touch, and slowly building up your excitement – it’s the ultimate foreplay!
If you’re feeling a bit nervous, that’s okay too. Once things get going, we guarantee your nerves will fly out the window.
Pick up some massage oil
Running dry hands over skin doesn’t always feel the best, so it can help to use some massage oil. That way, your hands will glide over your partner’s skin much easier, making the massage more soothing and relaxing.
You can even find massage oils and gels that are designed for sensual massage, doubling as a lubricant. Flavored gels are available, too – perfect if you want to use your tongue to help with the massage.
If you’re looking for a new way to spice up your sex life, why not try out a sensual massage this weekend? Variety is the spice of life, but if you decide it’s not for you, that’s okay too – there are plenty of other amazing ways to add some fun into the bedroom.
Have a chat with your partner and see if they’d be down to try out a sensual massage. We think you’ll both love it, so get ready for a simultaneously relaxing and mind-blowing experience!