Article originally published on JuiceBox Blog. Having truly great sex requires so many elements. You have to feel sexy and confident in yourself and have to be able to trust and communicate effectively with your partner. Many of these elements can actually be worked on before sex to help ensure the experience is fun and pleasurable in the moment. Here are some ways sex coaches, like those on the Juicebox Sex & Relationship App, can teach you to how to become the sexual goddess you truly are!

Explore Your Desires

Talking to a sex coach or counselor is a great way to get to figure out what you really want from your sex life. For some people it may be more clear if they want to learn how to orgasm or something else really tangible. For others, it may be less obvious. Some people may feel like they are in a rut but unsure what to change. Stella Harris, one of the Juicebox coaches says that even people having great sex can benefit from working with a coach: “A sex coach can help you discover fantasies and interests you didn’t even know you had and tell you how to explore them safely. Both in terms of physical safety, and emotional safety too.”

Increase Your Pleasure

For heterosexual couples, there is a tendency to focus on penis-in-vagina sex. However, only 20% of women are able to orgasm from penetration alone. Sex coaches can help you explore other ways to experience pleasure. Some people enjoy the feeling of mouths or fingers on their clits. Other women may have more success using vibrators. Exploring other parts of your body like your breasts or ass or incorporating dirty talk are ways you can play with different sensations and increase pleasure. Sex coaches often stress the importance of slowing down and self-exploration. “When you’re moving slowly, there’s so much more pleasure to explore,” says Stella. “Both because you have more time to savor the physical sensations and because you’ve got more time to build arousal. For people with vulvas, full engorgement can take 40 minutes or more. When’s the last time you had 40 minutes of foreplay?”

Communicate with Your Partner

Novelty can help break you out of a rut and create new opportunities for intimacy and play. Sex coaches can help remove the stress of trying new things. “From anal play to rope bondage, there’s a whole world of playful fun and pleasure to be had when you’re willing to experiment and try new things” says Stella. After you are clear on what you want to explore, there’s the challenge of communicating your needs to a partner. In the Juicebox App, we have resources where you can practice sharing what you want to say and then the app with create a script you can use when talking to your partner. If this feels too formulaic, you can always just talk through the scenario with your coach. Get pointers on how and when to bring up your needs, and go from there. Stella says, “when trying new things it’s essential to have open, honest, and clear communication. If that doesn’t already come naturally to you (and it doesn’t to most people), we can help.”

Who Are The Coaches?

Like therapists of the more conventional variety, sex coaches spend their careers examining research, developing techniques, and learning about the human condition. They use that knowledge to help clients understand, embrace, and enact their desires. Coaches are most frequently certified through the AASECT. The AASECT, or the American Association Of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), is an organization that started in the 1960s. The AASECT certification requires a bachelor’s degree, a minimum of three years of professional experience, and 1000 hours of sexuality counseling or education.

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Juicebox’s coaches can help anyone be this open and adventurous. Achieving multiple orgasms, communicating your desires, feeling confident while dating, or maximizing your sexual pleasure in general doesn’t have to be intimidating or seem to be an unattainable life goal. We’re excited to offer Slutbox readers a free 5-day trial of sex and relationship coaching on Juicebox. Use the code SLUT to get started with a personal coach for free. Learn more about Juicebox or download the Juicebox App for free. Article originally published on JuiceBox Blog.